Comments on: The Submissive Wife…and the Loving Husband

By: Marty

Marty — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 09:40:51 +0000

Hi Connie. That’s definitely a sign of an unhealthy relationship. You’ll want to remember this as well. What a boyfriend (or girlfriend) is currently is what they will generally translate into as a spouse.

The scripture is in reference to spouses particularly so your relationship now is an indication of what it will be going forward. It indicates a balance of responsibilities from both parties so your counselor’s advice should be considered seriously.

I don’t know your situation of course but consider your relationship in light of this.

By: connie

connie — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 22:11:17 +0000

I am naturally submissive but my boyfriend crams it down my throat and now I’m very resentful of the concept. I REALLY struggle with this b/c he is extremely controlling and demands VERY unhealthy behaviors of me based on his extreme jealousy…and our counselor has said not to give into the unhealthy behaviors. So, then my boyfriend says I’m not submissive- as if all the other times I am don’t count. Anyway, I really have NO idea how to submit to an unhealthy controlling man and how to keep any dignity in the process, or lose the relationship. Help.

By: Marty

Marty — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 11:24:10 +0000

Glad you got something out of Josh. Maybe you can share a tid bit with some of the folks you encounter each day.

By: Joshua

Joshua — Fri, 29 May 2009 11:10:25 +0000

Uncle, that was the most awesome presentation of the real issue at hand! The issue isn’t whether the people in question should embrace their roles before God, but whether people actually have taken the time to know what those roles are! People hate God so much, they don’t even give Him a chance to bless their lives. It really is sad.

By: Marty

Marty — Wed, 27 May 2009 12:14:38 +0000

Thanks Deb. And as you say, information is everything.

My hope, and I bet it’s yours too, is that if more people read it and realize the duality of the subject there will be fewer automatic attack reactions.

Good hearing from you.

By: Deb S.

Deb S. — Tue, 26 May 2009 20:10:52 +0000

Martin, you are a brave one to address this subject. A few years ago, I wrote on this subject on a Christian website. Some women attacked me as soon as they saw the word “submit”. But I expected that. LOL

Seriously, continue to encourage people to study the Bible for themselves.

No matter what “the world” thinks, this topic is always relevant.

By: Marty

Marty — Mon, 25 May 2009 01:32:10 +0000

I neglected to include the verse that initiates the dual perspective of this scripture.

21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.